Why AI Is Becoming a Dating Dealbreaker in San Francisco

Anti-AI views appear on profiles

After moving to San Francisco last year, 25-year-old analyst Irene turned to dating apps to meet people and explore her new city. On Hinge, she encountered profiles that made opposition to AI part of their dating criteria.

One profile said, “You should not go out with me if you use AI,” Irene recalled. She said such statements often came from people in fields including the arts, nursing and graphic design.

Technology shapes future plans

In the city, conversations about AI now surface in dating in different ways. Some people treat their views on the technology like political positions, while others consider the ethics of dating someone who works in the field or the financial advantages that job might bring.

Kyle, a researcher at an AI safety nonprofit initiative, said the technology’s rapid development affects how he thinks about having children and where he might live. Some experts in the AI safety community see a 10 percent chance that AI could cause human extinction, the story reports.

“I don’t really expect a long-term future,” Kyle said, explaining why planning several years ahead can be difficult. He prefers discussing these concerns face to face, where a date can ask questions.

Views differ on AI careers

Kyle said he would carefully consider dating someone in AI or tech. He believes many people at frontier AI companies give too little thought to the social consequences of their work, and may be motivated by pay or interest.

Bryan, who works at a frontier AI company and uses a pseudonym, disagreed with the idea that views on AI affect romance. The account ends before his full response is provided.